Day 28--Lifting Needs

Today's dare is to life a need from my wife's shoulder. Well, as our conversation revolved around me being kind to her, I'd say her biggest need right now is for her husband to show up as kind...always. Also I've taken a big load off her shoulders this week by agreeing to help her tangibly in her business pursuit. I've agreed to lift the burden of having to create a certain amount of business and this has freed her up to talk with other individuals and for us to create more synergy in our efforts. One of the questions from the reading is how much of my wife's stress is caused by my lack of concern or initiative? Fair question. I'd say a great percentage of her stress is caused by my beingness in her life. I think she would agree that when I'm "on" then life is much easier for her. When I'm struggling, then her jobs in her life take on more weight. I'm not sure this is unique to our marriage, as all relationships have ebbs and flows. What I can say is that those dares that have revolved around prayer times together have yielded lasting fruit. Those times when we have come together to focus our efforts on God's blessing in our lives have led to days when things were "on." When I initiate dates, or acts of kindness, or random acts of physical affection then her world is filled with less stress. So, when I choose to take the focus off of me and put it onto her, life goes more smoothly and the by products of those actions is love. True love. Love that doesn't have any strings attached to it. I've made the chose to support her in her pursuits, but have I done it with a pure heart? Yes! I want to support her for she is worthy and deserving of my love. Seeing her smile, laugh, rejoice in her success has taken on a new meaning for me. I'd much rather see her joyful right now then to be "right" about my thoughts. I want for her so much right now to step into her greatness that I can taste it. It tastes great.
Thanks God for allowing me to take this ride with my wife. Thanks for blessing me with the wisdom to see her for her strengths, agree to a lasting committment with her, and be willing and yearning to grow our relationship closer to you. May my actions toward her reflect your love for us and may I never forget that putting others first will always create a space for love.