Day 27--Bye Bye Expectations

Ironic that this dare revolves around something I've been doing in my professional life right now, just letting go of expectations and being in the moment. I've struggled with this as it seems I always have a motive or desire from every conversation that I have. Nowhere is this more obvious than at home. Today I was to release Kendra from the unreal expectations that I have regarding "how it should be" and what I desire from her. Immediately I thought of my expectations that she should have a meal planned for every evening and that my expectation is that it will be prepared after I get home from work. This has caused much strife in our family and I know that I have hurt her in my attitude towards this act of love that she does for us. I've repeatedly let her know that it is her responsibility to have food for our family and when my expectation isn't met, I let her know. 90% of the time this is in a fashion that doesn't speak truth in love. Almost always it makes her feel ashamed and me feel justified. So, I'm committing to release her from this expectation and to partner with her to create a meal plan that will benefit our family and create an atmosphere of love around dinner time. Seeking her out to let her know this was a great conversation as she acknowledged that this is an area of struggle for her. More than anything she wants to know that I will treat her respectfully and with love as I speak with her regarding any misunderstanding in our relationship. Yes, I admit that I'm not perfect in this area and it is great opportunity for me to step into a compassionate attitude and heart. Communication, communication, communication...it's the foundation to a great relationship and a healthy marriage. Kendra, I love you and will speak kindly as I state my desires and expectations, being open and honest regarding our differences of opinion and seeking to resolve conflict with truth in love.